Written by Harry Croose
"More beautiful than all the stars to shine is the heart of a loving friend. "
Hello reader, I hope you are incredibly well today! Today I wanted to talk about How to Win Friends and Influence People. Friends are a very important part of life, and I am incredibly grateful of all of you reading. I am very passionate and enthusiastic about this topic. My heart is so strong and passionate to continue this blog.
1. To be the "best friend" for yourself
This is incredibly criticial, to how to win friends and to influence people, you need to be the best friend of yourself.
You need to look after yourself, and be your best friend. Imagine, having a best friend that constantly pushed you to be the best self you can be, especially in the field of communication. YOU are worthy, always remember that. The only thing that truly holds you back is your limiting beliefs.
2. Visualization
Visualization is very important, to achieving or predicting a situation. Visualizing something that hasn’thappened but visualizing an outcome that is positive. Will help your brain rehearse that outcome.
3. Change Your Environment
Life is too short. To guilt-trip yourself into staying in an environment that does not vibe with you. Remember the previous point you want to thrive! If that means moving friend groups, distancing yourself from toxicity, and moving towards an environment that you want. Then do it. Yes, it will take a leap of faith, to make such a drastic change.
If you can’t just change your environment, perhaps you are in a job, or in a position where you don’t want to be. Then I would suggest you change your environment in small stages. Whether it be spending less time with someone or retreating to nature to relieve stress. All of these steps will say to your mind, that you are the top priority, and will undo the extreme selflessness programming and will help you care less of what over people think.
4. Find Your Life Purpose
One thing that will not ground you more, on not caring what people think is to have a Life Purpose. A Life Purpose is either a big goal or a massive change that you want to make in your life, which is aligned with your personal values and needs. This is like your destination. This will allow you to make your own heading if you will to reach this said goal and make this aligned into reality. This could be starting a blog, write a book, start a YouTube Channel, to Rule the World!
If you have your own goal then you will DO things that will benefit YOU.
If you are interested in finding your life purpose then read my post; How to Find Your Life Purpose
5. Build Confidence and Self-Esteem
Building sufficient confidence and Self-Esteem is so important. This is the bedrock of success and happiness. If you perceive yourself to not have very good confidence and self-esteem. Firstly, you are confident and do have Self-Esteem – let me explain before you go jumping to conclusions. It is just that you have been convinced that you don’t by your external environments justified by your past experiences.
I have a deep belief, that we all have great levels of confidence and self-esteem. You know that memory-player in the back of your mind reaffirming what you believe to be – that is what is controlling your confidence and self-esteem.
This here is an important insight, “your THOUGHTS are not the same as FACT.” Just because you say, ‘you’re stupid’, ‘you’re not good enough’ does not mean it is true. In fact, all it is is a bad radio station and all you need to do is change the frequency. Which you can do easily! Let’s go backwards your confidence – comes from emotions, and your emotions come from thoughts. This is a very vital insight into your own mental psychology, that I hope you find very helpful. If you have the strong confidence in yourself – you will find that naturally your boundaries will be stronger and will be more protected from status-quo thinking, following the herd and victim mentalities which make you vulnerable to the effects on other people’s opinions. I have many blog other posts on Confidence and Self-Esteem so please use the search on the blog-menu and type in ‘confidence’. To find lots of posts, resources and mini-courses to help you.
Bonus Point. Start a Self-Reflection Practise
To give you some suggestions that really benefited me through this obstacle. I want to recommend for you to start self-reflecting. Whether it be through…
– Journaling
– Reading Self-Help Books
– Reading Fiction Books
– Meditation
– Write your own story.
This will allow you to get what you read in theory, into practice. I want YOU, yes I am looking at you! To have a successful and happy and prosperous life! 
Until the Next Blog Post! Take Care and Look after yourself!!
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