Self-Help – Harry Croose

One day at a time. (Master the day, Master your life)

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Post published:March 27, 2023
Post category:Blog Personal Self-Help

ONE DAY AT A TIME (MASTER THE DAY, MASTER YOUR LIFE)

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Written by Harry Croose

“Patience is not simply the ability to wait—it’s how we behave while we’re waiting.”

- Joyce Meyer - Tweet

Hi all, I hope you are well and are having a good day, I am finally back blogging I have had quite a few years of developing my goals and have now accomplished some more life experiences to share. I am hoping to post more in recent months in contribution to my YouTube Channel. (Please find on the homepage on my website). I am now back in Business! Here to give YOU another one of my insights.

Today’s topic is something I learnt from my many months of emotional healing and self-reflection. I am talking about the importance of mastering each day. We can get lost in our thoughts, our habits and consequently without meaning too, lose either hours in the day or lose the quality of the time in the day that we are in. Only to regret the fact that it is already Sunday evening and we have work tomorrow. The phrase “Master your day, Master your life” actually came to me in a dream or perhaps my subconscious saved in my mind somewhere as it resonated with me a lot. I used to spend a lot of time looking to the horizon, never present in the moment, always planning and looking forward to the future, but I realised I lost a key element to the creative process which is to be in the NOW.
I am here to give you 5 strategies that helped me understand this philosphy of being present. One quick point first though, you don’t have to necessarily agree with me on all points made, please read through and take whatever youfind valuable; I hope it inspires you to write and document your own thoughts, and I hope that you found it a positive and pleasant read.

1. Reflecting on your goals (plan your next few years)

It is incredibly important to reflect on your goals, and not only that to act upon them. Isn’t it just surprisingly how quickly time flies which is while it is pivotal to fulfilling your life objectives. Reflection is a great exercise that allows to you evaluate what you have done in your past, and what went well, and how you can improve for next time, refine your technique and be better and more professional.

Journaling is a great way, to document your stories, reflecting your thoughts and harnessing your inner power that we all have within us. With a clear detailed plan, with the right action you would be able to write the plan in the fabric of the world.

2. Remember the Present Moment (enjoy today)

The present moment is something that many of us don’t take into consideration enough of; we are all subject to this. The past and future are as much as it can be help our ultimately ideas made my humankind. Enjoying the present moment is a great way to ground yourself to make you feel less anxious/upset and allows you to master right now. There are different ways to enjoy the present, from keeping active and learning different things.

3. Focus on 1 or 2 goals at a time

One mistake many make is to start TOO MANY goals, and to not finish any or many at all. Focusing on 1 or 2 goals at a time, allows you to split your time so that you have much time allocated into each thing, this allows for you to for fill great progress in a few things of your choice.

4. Do what makes you happy

Ultimately in life we need to do what makes us happy, we can all be productive but if it doesn’t motivate us and gives us joy or any level of fulfilment it can effect your motivation as well as level of self-esteem. Happiness is a currency that is largely forgotten in this day and age, and I would strongly recommend to design your goals and master your day with this overarching goal of happiness and love.

5. Take ACTION on your plan + believe in yourself

Now you have lain the foundation of 1-2 goals with the gratitude of the present moment, and your own happiness. The most important task ahead, is to write your plans into ACTION and to believe in yourself even when the going gets tough! The most important thing is your consistency, the consistency of your goals is key for you to unlock the door of your potential. You have great potential, when you believe in yourself you will triumph.

Bonus Point. Start a Self-Reflection Practise

To give you some suggestions that really benefited me through this obstacle. I want to recommend for you to start self-reflecting. Whether it be through…

– Journaling
– Reading Self-Help Books
– Reading Fiction Books
– Meditation
– Write your own story.

This will allow you to get what you read in theory, into practice. I want YOU, yes I am looking at you! To have a successful and happy and prosperous life!

Until the Next Blog Post! Take Care and Look after yourself!!

The Phantom Frame: how it changes the picture of reality.

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Post published:October 25, 2020
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The Art of War: How to Win Every Battle

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Post published:April 18, 2020
Post category:Blog Career Financial Health Self-Help

THE ART OF WAR: HOW TO WIN EVERY BATTLE

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"In the midst of chaos, there is also opportunity."

- Sun Tzu - Tweet

Hello. I hope you are well, on this fine day. 🙂 Today, I want to talk about ‘The Art of War’ and how to win each of your battles. First, we must define what ‘battles’ are, this could be obstacles in the ways of your goals, this could be psychological, social, financial or personal, there are many topics and definitions on what battles are, and each battle is different to everyone. This is a few helpful tips, and guides to help you deal with your battles, and not only to win but to thrive. 🙂

1. Choose your battles wisely.

Remember to choose your battles wisely, if you have the option to avoid obstacles in your goals, it may be wiser to do so. 🙂 There are always other ways of winning that doesn’t involve you losing as much resources. (Time, energy and physical resources such as money). For example, you could learn for free on youtube, rather than spending thousands on online courses that may or may not be as valuable to your goals, and objectives.

2. Know the 'battlefield'

Once you know if it is a battle worth fighting, you need to fully understand the layout of the battlefield. This metaphor of a battlefield is helpful for you to understand, as each passing day, each passing moment the environment may change. The weather, the conditions, food, and supplies for your troops, hidden areas and opportunities to suprise your enemy when they are least expecting it. The battlefield, is always changing, adapting and evolving. If you know the battlefield and your own strength than you win.

3. Plan the worst-case scenario

If you plan the worse case senario, to losing this battle, and the steps to move forward even ater defeat, you will gain a hidden victory. If you plan ahead on what the battles ahead might be you may get additional insight into your own strengths, and from your apparent ‘defeat’ places in yourself that you need to work on. Yet do not be disheartened if you suffer defeat after defeat, if you remain patient, and cultivate your skills and change your perception on those defeats, you will be ultimatley victorious. While you must plan the worst-case senario be motivated by the best-case senario, and let that positive vision motivate you and inspire you and your metaphorical troops to war.

4. The Internal War (feed the positive not the negative)

An important fact in psychology is self-awarenss and the acknowledgement of hard truths, and in most cases the abandonment of beliefs that do not serve you, and your ideal goals. Remember, that your words and actions are the very essence of your being. Swim in positivity, but remember to always follow the current of the river, it is not easy to fight against the current. You must use the nature of your will and your internal compass to guide you. Trust in the process. 🙂 Feed on the positive dreams, goals and it will manifest.

5. Build Confidence and Self-Esteem to fight for what you believe in.

Building sufficient confidence and Self-Esteem is so important. This is the bedrock of success and happiness. If you perceive yourself to not have very good confidence and self-esteem. Firstly, you are confident and do have Self-Esteem – let me explain before you go jumping to conclusions. It is just that you have been convinced that you don’t by your external environments justified by your past experiences.

I have a deep belief, that we all have great levels of confidence and self-esteem. You know that memory-player in the back of your mind reaffirming what you believe to be – that is what is controlling your confidence and self-esteem.
This here is an important insight, “your THOUGHTS are not the same as FACT.” Just because you say, ‘you’re stupid’, ‘you’re not good enough’ does not mean it is true. In fact, all it is is a bad radio station and all you need to do is change the frequency. Which you can do easily! Let’s go backwards your confidence – comes from emotions, and your emotions come from thoughts. This is a very vital insight into your own mental psychology, that I hope you find very helpful. If you have the strong confidence in yourself – you will find that naturally your boundaries will be stronger and will be more protected from status-quo thinking, following the herd and victim mentalities which make you vulnerable to the effects on other people’s opinions. I have many blog other posts on Confidence and Self-Esteem so please use the search on the blog-menu and type in ‘confidence’. To find lots of posts, resources and mini-courses to help you.

Bonus Point. Start a Self-Reflection Practise. This will help calm the war within. 🙂

To give you some suggestions that really benefited me through this obstacle. I want to recommend for you to start self-reflecting. Whether it be through…

– Journaling
– Reading Self-Help Books
– Reading Fiction Books
– Meditation
– Writing your own story.

This will allow you to get what you read in theory, into practice. I want YOU, yes I am looking at you! To have a successful and happy and prosperous life!

Until the Next Blog Post! Take Care and Look after yourself!!

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50 Things to do while in Lockdown

Post author:Harry
Post published:April 9, 2020
Post category:Academic Blog Career Financial Health Personal Reviews Self-Help Social

50 THINGS TO DO WHILE IN LOCKDOWN

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"Lockup all your love and go and throw away the key."

- Carrie Underwood - Tweet

Hello, all hope you are well. Especially in these times, if you are reading in 2020, with the Coronavirus lockdown. 🙂 I have had a few requests to write a blog post on things to do while in lockdown; luckily for you my fantastical followers, here it is. 🙂 Here is the long list, with an occasional elaboration, as to why I think they are possibly a great idea for you! 🙂

I will say this however if you have to do something, limit your time watching the news and social media. Awareness is important, but an overstimulation of negative headlines can do more damage them people realise to their psychology. Also make sure that you have a routine, and that you have a variety of things to do, that you most of all enjoy, but also tasks that give you the satisfaction of working towards your goals and dreams. 🙂

- THE LONG LIST OF IDEAS OF THINGS TO DO -

PLAN YOUR DAY – Have a To-Do List or a Goals Journal so you have particular objectives to complete so you are not just wasting your time, apologises for the bluntness there, but you no deep down what I say has an element of truth to it, espcially if you don’t have clear goals. I would recommend Google Calendar, to help with time blocking your days.
DEDICATE A WORK PERIOD (per day) – Spend a few hours every day doing tasks wether that be for your Work, School or University. Just make some progress it doesn’t matter how much. If you again plan far ahead, a few hours a day should be sufficent for you to get many of your tasks completed.
READ BOOKS – There are so MANY books, out there to read. 🙂 Take advantage of Amazon (depsite the new delays), books are a testament to education and mental stimulation, that will certainly keep you entertained.
Wether it be fiction or non-fiction, experimenting with different genres and authors is a fantastic idea.
LISTEN TO AUDIOBOOKS – Listening to Audiobooks, (especially from Audible), again it is amazing, and books can be obtained instantly, and can be listened to via the app. I would personally recommend The Game of Thrones Series and Harry Potter Collection for those who like fantasy. You would find thousands of books, from different genres all at very affordable prices at the moment during lockdown.
WATCHING YOUTUBE – You must have a YouTube account surely, listening/watching some of your favourite YouTubers for surely give you a laugh, education or whatever you are in to!
PLAYING VIDEO GAMES – Wether that be on your Xbox One, Xbox 360, WiiU, and Nintendo 3DS etc. There must be plenty of games you haven’t played or haven;t visited in a long time, perhaps you should play them game. The good news is it does eat up time, the bad news is if you get addicted you won’t have a lot of time for anything else – so be careful on that front. But it is lovely to play all together with the family from time-to-time.
COMPULSORY HOUSE CHORES – House Chores are neccessarily and everyone seems to dread it, but if you make it a routine in the morning (while let’s say listening to an audiobook), you can just get it done and chores might even become quite therauputic and relaxing after a while, rather than a nuisance. This includes, washing up, drying up, washing machine maitenance, hanging the washing to dry, changing sheets, and just generic tidying.
CLEANING/ TIDYING THE HOUSE – This goes beyond the normal house chore level, where you actually do a proper tidying and cleaning of the house, with a hoover, and polishing your surfaces. and sponging/wiping the floor. This again could be tiresome work but it is certainly fulfilling to get even just one room tidied to the best of your ability.
HOUSE/GARDEN (RE)DECORATION – Perhaps you have the resources already in your house to redecorate or even to just move the furniture round to give it a new feel to a space, especially being in lockdown it might be a rather good idea to change the scenery or the look of it, every ones in a while. (This also includes your Garden).
WATCHING DOCUMENTARIES – Education watching of documentaries is always good, is there a period of histroy you wanted to visit? There are plenty of free ones on YouTube, TV Channels, Netflix, Amazon Prime etc. I am personally very in to The Tudor Period at the Moment.
WATCHING TV – A bit self-explanatory, a good show to watch is always great on occasion. Are their any shows to catch up on that you want to watch? Or any new ones?
WATCHING FILMS – The same as above, are there any films you haven’t watched. I would recommend Disney+ for that. 🙂
PLAYING BOARD GAMES/ QUIZZES WITH THE FAMILY – These nights are always fun!! Wether it be Monopoly, Cluedo, Scrabble, Frustration etc. Plenty of board games to play, you could even make a tournament of it, with prices!!
START YOUR OWN BLOG/WEBSITE – Why don’t you spend time, creating a blog/website, you can start one for absolutely free on WordPress. 🙂 Post regularly it may be entertaining for you and you may establish a viewership. 🙂
START (OR PLAN) YOUR OWN PERSONAL BRAND/BUSINESS – A great opportunity for you to establish a Personal Brand via Social Media while working from home. Some businesses may even find great opportunities in these period, despite the not so pleasant circumstances.
REVISE FOR YOUR DRIVING THEORY TEST – It is important you know. 🙂
SKYPE FIRENDS AND OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS – See if they all alright, organise to talk to them every so often even if it just a phone call, but Skype would be preferable.
BE A POSITIVE INFLUENCE ON SOCIAL MEDIA – Don’t add to the overwhelming numbers of negative posts and naysayers you have duty to yourself and your family to not be sharing unneccessary articles, that may prove detrimental to someones mental health. Be self-aware of what you are sharing, posting and if you do that you will be a beacon of hope online that people need in this dark hour in 2020. Make sure you also spend less time on social media though it has as already said become a rather depressing place. Filter out those who convey messages you don’t want and replaces them with those that allign with your way of thinking (a more positive ideal). This will change your personal algorthim both on social media and yourself.
WRITE DOWN YOUR LONG-TERM/SHORT-TERM GOALS – Refer to them every day, and take action accordingly to those goals, whenever possible.
SPEND MORE TIME WITH YOUR FAMILY – An excellent opportunity to spend more itme with your family members, and to build upon the loving relationships that you have.
DEVELOP A HEALTH PLAN/ROUTINE – Perhpas you should try doing tha tone daily run or walk for exercise,
plan a personal gym in your back garden to get some fitness in. Even if it is for 20 mins or so, it is al lot better than doing nothing – keep active.
SPEND TIME IN THE FRESH AIR – Wether it be on your one walk to the shop or for exercise, or even just to open your bedroom window let the fresh air, you feel better for it.
WRITE A BOOK – Everyone has ideas of a story they want to write, maybe it is the time for you to write that best-selling novel. (Especially you Creative Wrting Students!!) 🙂
WRITE A SCRIPT – Same as above, maybe you want to become a script writer one day, perhpaas for Doctor Who or a show you would like to develop.
WRITE IN A GRATITUDE JOURNAL – Studies show that this has a massive positive effect on Mental Health, it work wonders, make a list of what you are grateful everyday no matter how small or how big.
CREATE A YOUTUBE CHANNEL – Create your own content, I believe everyone in this world has a gift to share with us all, why don’t you show us yours. 🙂
UPDATE AND BUILD A PRESCENCE ON SOCIAL MEDIA – This would work wonders with the Number 26. Learning skills such as marketing and graphic design would improve your layout.
START AN ONLINE COURSE (SKILLSHARE) – There are plenty of online courses, for you learn different skills such as Art, Graphic Design, Business Coaching and so much more. Skillshare is very affordable if you use it. 🙂
START YOUR DUKE OF EDINBURGH AWARD (UK) – Even thugh you can’t do your residential, you can still strat your Duke of Edinburgh Gold Award for those in the UK, it takes up to 18 months to complete. Hopefully by then lockdown will be gone! But yes the Duke of Edinburgh on the CV will work wonders with a potential employer. 🙂
LEARN AN INSTRUMENT – Such as a piano, guitar or drums their are plenty of instruments to learn and to get good at, with enough persistance you may even be able to compose your own music.
LEARN A NEW LANGUAGE (DUOLINGO) – This would be such a help when you are able to travel again if you really wanted to go to Paris for example (Disneyland), learn French, a great opportunity, use Duolingo it is absolutely FREE and an amzing app. 🙂
PLAY DUNGEONS AND DRAGONS WITH YOUR FAMILY – For those nerds and geeks out there, me included, Dungeons and Dragons may be a good idea, a fantasy game involving the imagination, where you are the characters in your DM’s world, may be a great side campaign/activity to do. 🙂
RESEARCH JOB OPPORTUNITIES e.g. GRADUATE JOBS – Plenty of time to research opportunities for jobs and graduate placements (once lockdown has been lifted).
– ALSO FOR UNDERGRADUATE/POSTGRADUATE OPPORTUNITIES – Spend the time looking for your future academic plans, what course did you want to do and why? 🙂
LISTEN TO PODCASTS – There are plenty of podcasts to watch wether your taste is Drama, Comedy or Personal Development, there are plenty to select from. 🙂
LEARN ARTISTIC DRAWING/PAINTING ETC – Have you got a passion for art, or like to draw? Make your own artistic masterpiece!
LOGIC PUZZLES and RIDDLES – These are always good to get the mind challenged.
WATCH MOTIVATIONAL/ INSPIRATIONAL VIDEOS – Enough said really, it gets you in the mood for doing your great things. 🙂
LEARN HOW TO CREATE AND EDIT VIDEOS (Adobe) – This is a great skill to learn wether in your own leisure.
LEARN HOW TO COOK OR COOK BETTER – If you can cook well, then trust me this skill with serve oyu for life (pun intended). May even win over a date or two! 🙂
PLAY OUTDOOR GAMES (IN THE GARDEN) – Playing football, Skittles and other outdoor games in your garden may be a great combination of getting exercise, having fresh air while also having lots of fun! 🙂
SPENDING TIME WITH YOURSELF – Just becuase you are in lockdown does not give you the excuse to be mean to yourself, make sure you are very kind to yourself no matter what circumstances you are in, and make sure you get the appropriate help if neccessary, your future self will thank you for it. 🙂
THE IMPORTANCE OF SELF-GROOMING/HYGIENE – I know it is basic, but it is easy to forget, if you are not going out you may not put as much effort it, that is understandable and even logical. But you still need to take care of the basics, brushing your teeth, washing your hands especially, washing your hair and having showers/and or baths regularly. It will make you feel better, if you look after your body, your body will look after you. You will feel less groggy and more energised for your tasks and more excited for future prospects. 🙂
HELPING OTHERS IN YOUR HOUSEHOLD – Help others, you will feel good helping them. DO to others as you would hve then do to you. 🙂
VOLUNTEER – If you are brave enough like the NHS and other Key workers (#legends #NHS ) you could spend your days volunteering for example to help the homeless and help the elderly get their shopping. This is also part of the Duke of Edinburgh, and is an absolutely brilliant thing to do in this time, so long as you are healthy and able to do so. 🙂
STAYING HEALTHY: (FOOD) – Make sure to eat plenty and drink plenty to keep optimal hydration. Also make sure that you are eating the right foods more often such as fruit, vegetables, carbohydrates etc. But also giving yourself enough time for treats.
TAKE ADVANTAGE OF FREE TRIALS AND REDUCED PRICES – Online shops are reducing prices due to this crash and restriction of movement. So take advantage of that and buy stuff that would be productive towards your goals as well as your lesiure.
ENJOY SHOPPING (when you go to restock) – More so than not people are sacred at going out, but when it ocmes to shopping it is important that you do so. Be grateful with the pleasures you had when shopping in the past, with the awareness of current social restrictions.
PLAN FOR WHEN THE LOCKDOWN FINISHES!! PLAN AN AMAZING EVENT – An event for friends and/or family, also in general terms plan for when life returns to normal. 🙂
BE AWESOME, BE YOURSELF – Remember that you are legend always…

So there you have it, hope you found this list inspiring as much as it was long winded. 🙂
Speak to you soon, until the next blog post! 🙂
Harry Croose 🙂

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The Master of Your Own Destiny

Post author:Harry
Post published:May 10, 2019
Post category:Self-Help

THE MASTER OF YOUR OWN DESTINY

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Written by Harry Croose

"You are the master of your destiny. You can influence, direct and control your own environment. You can make your life what you want it to be."

- Napoleon Hill -

We are all the Masters of our own destinies. As the water flows, we can as easily change the direction of our own personal paths. For too long with have focused too much on the unnecessary complexities of life. Jumping over hoops and completing tasks without complete consciousness of our actions. Is the very reson why we ourselves can become lost. Time flies and then you wonder where the months, and years have gone and all you can see is the fading memory of yesterday and the worried anxieties of tommorrow. But there is a greater ilusion than even this, hiding in our very design. We have been programme by society that masters are in the few. Yet in reality we are all the masters of our own life, wether it be conscious or unconscious. The greatest concern you should have is doing things without reason and purpose. Here is some more insights on how to master your own destiny.

1. Focus solely on the Present

Their is a reason as to why we are as a society are levels of aniety have increased furhter. It is not necause of the external things as many people believe. Of course, to blame an external thing like social media is a great way to trick the mind by projecting blame onto a technological trend. The problem is not social media, video game – but rather it is our inability to be present with ourselves. the prlbem it is when these external things re used as coping mechanisms to fill internal struggles and challenges. Allowing the focus on the present moment through things such as meditaiotn, yoga and journalling. Allow the at first challenging but later blissful abit of creating a integral path to emotional mastery – which in turn reflects on your decisions rationally – and helps raise your psychological homostasis (normal level). Getting into the body and understanding the breath – and developing good posture can create massive changes in your life.

2. Never give up

I understand things happen in life that can be to be frank absolutely terrible and disgusting. But like the yin-yang symbol understand and reflect that no matter what goes on in your life there will be good and bad things that happen. But the difference is how you REACT to these events. One bad event, whether it is a lover cheating, a death, a mistake by you-you have the ability under all this stress and pain to harness a hero’s power. NEVER GIVING UP. These short-term negative emotions can help you build the foundation of your long-term positive paradise. I am not saying you cannot move on, or stop something that isnt working. Just never lose faith in your dreams. Otherwise your dreams will stay dreams and you will be sitting in 25 years time saying why didn’t I start then?

3. Chase Legacy, not Money.

Dont ever chase money solely. Of couse, in a capitalist society we need enough money to pay the bills, and our expenses. But, using money as a sole motivator is leaving your happiness levels in your career on a lottery draw. This is why you need to have a strong ‘why’, a life purpose if you will. These will carry you through the darker days, and will give you that glimmer of hope, solace and excitement of the journey ahead. We are all our own heroes in our lives, it would be the most boring story – if it was pure positivity. In fact, imagine being positive all the time for every waking second. Or being in a state of pleasure for the rest of time. It would literally be torutre. We need that duality, so we can differentiate with our internal compass on what is right and what is wrong. But I will tell you this, that 99% you should prioritise legacy over mere financial currency. People have spend their days chasing money and nothing else – but it cost them their love, health and more importantly their legacy’s that they never got to told. All the millions they had was completely worthless.

4. Look after your Health

I touched upon this largely in my first point, with regards, to psychological health. But this also includes the importance of exercising, dieting and nutrition. The crown on the well person’s head is only visible to those who are ill. Do not take this crown for granted. The sooner you strat monitoring your health the better and the less time, effort and stress it will cost you in the long run. It may improve your chances of longevity. As much as I am excited for the technological age, I wouldn’t let theose industries be responsible for maintaing your own wellbeing. Yes, that means less fastfood. Of course, you dont have to boycott everything – awareness alone would be better than the majority of the population. But creating and applying a helathy habit may save you not only money but buy you days to live due to your wise health choises. That my friend is priceless.

5. Build Confidence and Self-Esteem

Building sufficient confidence and Self-Esteem is so important. This is the bedrock of success and happiness. If you perceive yourself to not have very good confidence and self-esteem. Firstly, you are confident and do have Self-Esteem – let me explain before you go jumping to conclusions. It is just that you have been convinced that you don’t by your external environments justified by your past experiences.

I have a deep belief, that we all have great levels of confidence and self-esteem. You know that memory-player in the back of your mind reaffirming what you believe to be – that is what is controlling your confidence and self-esteem.
This here is an important insight, “your THOUGHTS are not the same as FACT.” Just because you say, ‘you’re stupid’, ‘you’re not good enough’ does not mean it is true. In fact, all it is is a bad radio station and all you need to do is change the frequency. Which you can do easily! Let’s go backwards your confidence – comes from emotions, and your emotions come from thoughts. This is a very vital insight into your own mental psychology, that I hope you find very helpful. If you have the strong confidence in yourself – you will find that naturally your boundaries will be stronger and will be more protected from status-quo thinking, following the herd and victim mentalities which make you vulnerable to the effects on other people’s opinions. I have many blog other posts on Confidence and Self-Esteem so please use the search on the blog-menu and type in ‘confidence’. To find lots of posts, resources and mini-courses to help you.

Bonus Point. Start a Self-Reflection Practise

To give you some suggestions that really benefited me through this obstacle. I want to recommend for you to start self-reflecting. Whether it be through…

– Journaling
– Reading Self-Help Books
– Reading Fiction Books
– Meditation
– Write your own story.

This will allow you to get what you read in theory, into practice. I want YOU, yes I am looking at you! To have a successful and happy and prosperous life!

Until the Next Blog Post! Take Care and Look after yourself!!

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7 Steps to Build Confidence (Even if you’re shy)

Post author:Harry
Post published:April 25, 2019
Post category:Self-Help Social

7 Steps to Build Confidence (Even if you're Shy)

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"Confidence comes not from always being right, but not fearing to be wrong ."

- Anonymous - Tweet

Hey, welcome back to my blog – today we will be talking about the vital importance of building confidence. Now to many when we talk about the confidence we see someone who is extrovert, charismatic and is seemingly unmarked by negativity and criticism. However, this image of confidence is merely an illusion. Confidence can be shown externally through the means above but also through many more factors in life. Here are 7 Steps to build confidence.

1. Create Confidence Categories

Confidence to me is how one sees themselves but more particularly honed towards a person’s goals for example in social interactions, (which is the most common perception of what a confident person is). But confidence is so much more than just someone who has master socialising but can also be with someone’s health, finance, career so on and so forth. These Confidence categories are a very important part of raising Self-Awareness as far as confidence is concerned because it can help you identify where you are strong in confidence and where you are less so. These categories can also go into further sub-categories like health can be further broken down into more segments like nutrition and muscle gain fitness. This may bring some further awareness to you – as someone could be easily confident in themselves when it comes to eating healthily and looking after his/her nutrition, but that same person may not be confident in muscle gain fitness.

2. Write a Goals List

Writing a Goals List, in summary, would be a really good way of not only further affirming your self-awareness of your confidence level but would also give you a clear distinct direction to head in to potentially improve your confidence in certain areas of your life to improve your wellbeing, happiness and success in life.

3. Build foundational habits

Building foundational habits is incredibly important for confidence building. Building habits in areas of personal strengths and weakness, such as budgeting in finance and meditation in personal wellbeing. These habits allow you to have the practise and build momentum in the areas you which to improve in your life.

4. Leap of Faith (Be courageous)

Sometimes, just taking a dive outside your comfort zone, and being courageous is the quickest way to expand your horizons as far as confidence is concerned. After all, before confidence is courage. Confidence is being contented and able in your own comfort zone, courage is the act to expand your comfort zone. This is the most drastic and possibly the scariest but will get you the most results and insights even if you believe you didn’t do well.

5. Self-Education

As you would research for an essay, a way to build confidence in a particular subject whether for academics or for own personal education is to research and self-educate yourself in the areas you want to improve further. This doesn’t have to be for just confidence but can be for all facets of life.

6. Fulfill your needs

Occasionally, we do not feel confident, because of a selfless need to look after others, before ourselves, make sure that you are looking after yourself when it comes to your own basic needs such as personal hygiene, grooming, hydration etc. The lack of fulfilment of these needs like a domino effect will still affect and knock against your confidence levels. Having these established will give you that solid foundation.

7. Ask for help

There is no need to go through this challenge alone. If you have supportive friends and family, perhaps you could ask them to assist you and help you grow in confidence, after all, they know you better. You could also ask some people at University, for example, a Career’s Adviser, Lecturer or Councillor depending on your needs and self-awareness as to where your confidence is limited. There are also apps and local charities that help young people.

Bonus Point. Treat yourself.

Nothing gives you more confidence, then the confidence to treat yourself occasionally whether it be a delicious meal out somewhere with your friends or buying something online that you have always wanted. This can be a great way of self-affirming to yourself and a good way to remind you how awesome you are.

Anyways, until next time, please check out my other blog posts on similar subjects. Also, my courses if they interest you.

Take care and have a lovely evening. Remember that even the shy person is confident int eh idea that they are shy. SO in a sense, shy people are still confident.

Harry,

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How To Not Care What Other People Think

Post author:Harry
Post published:April 18, 2019
Post category:Self-Help Social

HOW TO NOT CARE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK

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Written by Harry Croose

"Someone's Opinion of You - does not have to become your reality."
- Les Brown - Tweet

For many months, now I was caught into a sneaky way of thinking, which held a lot of knocks to my Self-Esteem and confidence, but now am stronger than ever. Back in Business! Here to give YOU another one of my insights.

Today’s topic is something I learnt from my many months of emotional healing and self-reflection. A lot of this I’d discovered was that I was caring too much of the opinions of others. Now be careful now don’t take it literally, this phrase is often used when we are essentially fed up, but that is used in a mental framework of a victim. However, this phrase can also be used in as a way of releasing unnecessarily burdens that either you or others have placed on you.
I am here to give you 5 strategies that helped me get over this wall. One quick point first though, remember that other people’s opinions can still have large benefits. Just remember that their opinions do not define who you are.

1. Focus on yourself and your Needs

There is an annoying stigma in society, that if you are selfless you are great and if you are selfish you are a horrible person. This form of assumption, that allows unkind people to take advantage of you – due to your social complexes on ‘what is right’.

How to solve this would be to solely focus on yourself. I know right so selfish! But you need to fill your own cup first as it were, before you start helping others. I am not saying to go out your way to be unkind to someone (even if they deserve it) but merely to prioritise yourself other everything else, and yes even your family.

The more you invest in yourself today – the more you will be able to help them in the future. In fact, helping yourself first will likely mean you will be in a much better position to help others more so then even if you were too selfless of your own needs and desires.

This topic is such a big one that I have wrote a separate blog post here – How to fulfil your needs.

2. Establish Strong Independent Boundaries

Establish concrete boundaries in different areas of your life. Whether that be in the realms of love, relationships, friendships, money, emotions, psychology and so on. This mind does not necessarily come from a lack of confidence or self-esteem. I believe that a lack of secure boundaries in these sections of oneself can be one of many reasons that a lack of confidence/ self-esteem continues to manifest in your life.

How does this relate to how to not care what other people think? Well, people with what are considered to be weaker boundaries have an obsession of the need to be validated by others. (Hence you care what people think). Therefore, they require external environments to control their boundaries, which if you put it like that sounds ridiculous!

In human biology, we have a need to be in a pack of people, so we naturally have homeostasis of what the supposed conformed boundaries are. But remember that sometimes our human nature struggles to differentiate the difference between thriving and surviving in these instances. I want you to be thriving! So don’t use this as an excuse for you to be thriving! This brings be to my next point.

3. Change Your Environment

Life is too short. To guilt-trip yourself into staying in an environment that does not vibe with you. Remember the previous point you want to thrive! If that means moving friend groups, distancing yourself from toxicity, and moving towards an environment that you want. Then do it. Yes, it will take a leap of faith, to make such a drastic change.

If you can’t just change your environment, perhaps you are in a job, or in a position where you don’t want to be. Then I would suggest you change your environment in small stages. Whether it be spending less time with someone or retreating to nature to relieve stress. All of these steps will say to your mind, that you are the top priority, and will undo the extreme selflessness programming and will help you care less of what over people think.

4. Find Your Life Purpose

One thing that will not ground you more, on not caring what people think is to have a Life Purpose. A Life Purpose is either a big goal or a massive change that you want to make in your life, which is aligned with your personal values and needs. This is like your destination. This will allow you to make your own heading if you will to reach this said goal and make this aligned into reality. This could be starting a blog, write a book, start a YouTube Channel, to Rule the World!
If you have your own goal then you will DO things that will benefit YOU.

If you are interested in finding your life purpose then read my post; How to Find Your Life Purpose

5. Build Confidence and Self-Esteem

Building sufficient confidence and Self-Esteem is so important. This is the bedrock of success and happiness. If you perceive yourself to not have very good confidence and self-esteem. Firstly, you are confident and do have Self-Esteem – let me explain before you go jumping to conclusions. It is just that you have been convinced that you don’t by your external environments justified by your past experiences.

I have a deep belief, that we all have great levels of confidence and self-esteem. You know that memory-player in the back of your mind reaffirming what you believe to be – that is what is controlling your confidence and self-esteem.
This here is an important insight, “your THOUGHTS are not the same as FACT.” Just because you say, ‘you’re stupid’, ‘you’re not good enough’ does not mean it is true. In fact, all it is is a bad radio station and all you need to do is change the frequency. Which you can do easily! Let’s go backwards your confidence – comes from emotions, and your emotions come from thoughts. This is a very vital insight into your own mental psychology, that I hope you find very helpful. If you have the strong confidence in yourself – you will find that naturally your boundaries will be stronger and will be more protected from status-quo thinking, following the herd and victim mentalities which make you vulnerable to the effects on other people’s opinions. I have many blog other posts on Confidence and Self-Esteem so please use the search on the blog-menu and type in ‘confidence’. To find lots of posts, resources and mini-courses to help you.

Bonus Point. Start a Self-Reflection Practise

To give you some suggestions that really benefited me through this obstacle. I want to recommend for you to start self-reflecting. Whether it be through…

– Journaling
– Reading Self-Help Books
– Reading Fiction Books
– Meditation
– Write your own story.

This will allow you to get what you read in theory, into practice. I want YOU, yes I am looking at you! To have a successful and happy and prosperous life!

Until the Next Blog Post! Take Care and Look after yourself!!

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The World Needs More Heroes

Post author:Harry
Post published:April 9, 2019
Post category:Self-Help

THE WORLD NEEDS MORE HEROES

SELF – HELP

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Written by Harry Croose

"Hating on someone, or something is only giving power to that thing. It becomes a bigger problem in your mind. It's okay to dislike something, but never hate it - you only lose your power and time."

- Harry Croose - Tweet

Hello reader,

I hope you are well as always! Today, I would like to ramble on a bit about the importance of ‘heroes’, but I don’t mean the kind like Batman or Superman.
I’m talking about the hero that is hiding within us, in the corner of our eye or behind your shadow. The hero that lives within us all, that we choose to ignore.

Why do we choose to ignore it? You may ask.

Well the answer is because of fear and social constructs, I have lived a short life so far me being relatively young in age and yet I feel much older in experience and wisdom.
I do not want to live a life where I haven’t tried to live the life that I want. To be hero is to go against the current of society while being true to yourself. We ignore this path because we are scared of being social outcasts, scared of being alone.

But I’ve found that if you repress what you truly feel is right it will only destroy you.
Then you become part of ‘the herd’ – the majority of people who are not happy where the work, not happy in their relationships, not happy financially; not happy in life.
I speak in absolutes here not to say everyone is unhappy as there are many shades of grey. I say this to show you that the majority of people are not happy because they didn’t take the action to carve their own path in this world. They settled with being told what to do, being told what was right without listening to their internal compass.

You must become a hero to yourself, before anyone else. Once you are ready to give you will be able to provide and inspire tens, thousands to millions of people if you let it so.

A hard pill to swallow is that you and you alone are responsible for everything that happens in your life. It is easy to take responsibility for the good things that happen to you like a good grade on a test, or a job promotion. But it is much more difficult to take responsibility for the bad things you have done in your life.

Do yourself a favour and forgive yourself or those that you think has wronged you and move on towards your future.

You need to have the vision and believe in yourself to walk the path of a hero. Some days it will be ‘a walk in the park’ other days you will want to give up and cry.
But wipe away the tears and remember why you went on the path in the first place, what drives you through. What have you come here to be? Who are you?

Maybe you don’t know yet, but if you take action one day you will. Once you find your path it will not be something you see, it will be something you feel. An instinct saying resonates with you as time begins to slow around you. You take a deep breath and just be…

A hero is not someone with special power or abilities that make them special. What makes a true hero in my eyes at least is someone who can accept themselves for who they are flaws and all. Who can take something they have created and share it with the world impacting the world in a positive way.

We are all stories in the end, make it a good one. Don’t be there regretting trying to scavenge for the sands of time that’s already passed. Don’t live empty, die full.

Live full, die empty.

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4 Steps to Dealing with Haters

Post author:Harry
Post published:April 2, 2019
Post category:Academic Career Financial Health Personal Reviews Self-Help Social

4 STEPS TO DEALING WITH HATERS

Academic, Career, Financial, Health, Personal, Reviews, Self-Help, Social

Written by Harry Croose

"Hating on someone, or something is only giving power to that thing. It becomes a bigger problem in your mind. It's okay to dislike something, but never hate it - you only lose your power and time."

- Harry Croose - Tweet

1. Accepting that Haters are everywhere.

Basically, if you are a hater why are you here. To plot your revenge, to comment under one of my blog posts or YouTube Videos because I upset you; or are you here to eat my chocolate cheesecake because the last one is definitely crossing the line. Also hyperlinks can be very useful.

2. Understand why they Hate

There was a time where I actually paid attention to these individuals who sit down in life and have nothing better to do than complain and shout at you for doing ‘the wrong thing’ or ‘that you are weird’ . Well here is a reality check for those of you that are haters of my work, look at yourself. What are you doing and contributing to the world? You can’t say anything to me or too anyone at that if you are not following your own path and are merely following the masses, because you are still scared that you might fail.

3. Re-frame the situation.

I don’t hate you if you are a hater, I respect that you have an opinion; but to waste your precious time on this earth which as you read this (by the way I appreciate) you will loses this seconds forever. Instead of complaining or being a victim 100% of the time, harness your energy to things that could actually change your life.

Direct your energy away from your haters and invest it into yourself
Understand that it isn’t about you, it is about them.

4. Maintain distance to your haters.

There was a time where I was a hater of people who seemed to have it better than me, but when I started to stop comparing myself to others. I felt so much more free and had a tenfold more time and energy to make the impact I want to make on the world. I am not giving up not now, I will never give up. I am not stopping just because my crush no longer likes me, I am not stopping because I haven’t got 50 likes on YouTube or 1000 subscribers I am going to keep pushing ahead; we must together keep pushing forward that is the only way we will truly reach the land we were promised off when we were read a bedtime story with a nice cup of hot chocolate.

Dreams can come true, and no matter where you are in life or how far you think your behind; you can make it.
I believe in you.
Lovers always Win.

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The Power of Imagination

Post author:Harry
Post published:February 26, 2019
Post category:Self-Help

THE POWER OF IMAGINATION

SELF – HELP

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"Laughter is timeless, imagination has no age and dreams our forever."

- Walt Disney - Tweet

Imagination is such a vital skill as without Imagination the many giants that are world has ever known such as the Roman Empire, The construction of America, the many artists and musicians with their paintings and music compositions.

Without imagination every little child wouldn’t be able to be immersed in stories, thus how we deem entertainment would be very primitive only showing in a basic biological provenance. Without we would not be able to evolve and adapt our environment and thus create the reality we see today. All scientific discoveries such as Gravity, as well as technological advances such as the printing press and then much more recently in our history technology. Imagination is the essential power of the Universe, the power to see things before they truly happen if viewed from that perspective you could say that imagination can be the prominent predictor of how successful someone will be; however nothing is set in stone.

Main constructs of today like money, politics and education would all be lost to time if we din’t have the facilities in our mind, body and soul to imagine these complex constructs. Every construct I agree has a very simple foundation, but if we could not build upon it or have the initiative and creativity to expand our ideas we would still be in the ages of long ago. We would be long gone to time and maybe even instinct.

We are only here because of the unity we all have, the connection that we all have to each other as a human race I know in recent times some groups are still in conflict but at the end of the day we still have a connection positive or negative and in a way we all need each other, friend to enemy or lover to lover. Without the conflict to disagree imagination can not be sparked. I see imagination like a spinning tornado but rather than destroying the environment it constructs and in a way gives the world a new lease of life.

This is why we need awesome people like you. people who are incredibly brave and courageous to follow their heart to follow their dreams to go out there and change the world, to shape the world by how you envisioned it, but before I leave you remember that we are all mortal and that legacy is significant and a great purpose to strive for but love for our families, our friends, our enemies, is the most important thing of all. Live life by the guidance of love, and your imagination will take you to extraordinary heights.

I wish you well!!!!!

I will speak to you soon!!!

Harry, 🙂

ONE DAY AT A TIME (MASTER THE DAY, MASTER YOUR LIFE)

1. Reflecting on your goals (plan your next few years)

2. Remember the Present Moment (enjoy today)

3. Focus on 1 or 2 goals at a time

4. Do what makes you happy

5. Take ACTION on your plan + believe in yourself

Bonus Point. Start a Self-Reflection Practise

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THE ART OF WAR: HOW TO WIN EVERY BATTLE

1. Choose your battles wisely.

2. Know the 'battlefield'

3. Plan the worst-case scenario

4. The Internal War (feed the positive not the negative)

5. Build Confidence and Self-Esteem to fight for what you believe in.

Bonus Point. Start a Self-Reflection Practise. This will help calm the war within. 🙂

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50 THINGS TO DO WHILE IN LOCKDOWN

- THE LONG LIST OF IDEAS OF THINGS TO DO -

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THE MASTER OF YOUR OWN DESTINY

1. Focus solely on the Present

2. Never give up

3. Chase Legacy, not Money.

4. Look after your Health

5. Build Confidence and Self-Esteem

Bonus Point. Start a Self-Reflection Practise

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7 Steps to Build Confidence (Even if you're Shy)

1. Create Confidence Categories

2. Write a Goals List

3. Build foundational habits

4. Leap of Faith (Be courageous)

5. Self-Education

6. Fulfill your needs

7. Ask for help

Bonus Point. Treat yourself.

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HOW TO NOT CARE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK

1. Focus on yourself and your Needs

2. Establish Strong Independent Boundaries

3. Change Your Environment

4. Find Your Life Purpose

5. Build Confidence and Self-Esteem

Bonus Point. Start a Self-Reflection Practise

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THE WORLD NEEDS MORE HEROES

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4 STEPS TO DEALING WITH HATERS

1. Accepting that Haters are everywhere.