How to deal with Toxic Relationships
Written by Harry Croose
"Hating on someone, or something is only giving power to that thing. It becomes a bigger problem in your mind. It's okay to dislike something, but never hate it - you only lose your power and time."
There was a time where I was a hater of people who seemed to have it better than me, but when I started to stop comparing myself to others. I felt so much more free and had a tenfold more time and energy to make the impact I want to make on the world. I am not giving up not now, I will never give up. I am not stopping just because my crush no longer likes me, I am not stopping because I haven’t got 50 likes on YouTube or 1000 subscribers I am going to keep pushing ahead; we must together keep pushing forward that is the only way we will truly reach the land we were promised off when we were read a bedtime story with a nice cup of hot chocolate.
1. Distance yourself from Toxic People.
Distance yourself from that person or group of people as much as possible. If they are a family member, a close friend or a co-worker, then this is most likely a lot tougher to do rather than someone like an acquaintance or even a stranger. It’s important to realise the effect that they have on you, and how they drain or even change your personality to something you are not.
Many people call them energy vampires or even master manipulators who are able to change your personality instantly just by their presence. I’d strongly advise in order to truly break this image, is to talk to them consciously with this idea in mind that they are changing in you in some way; you might be able to either dispel this effect entirely or at least build resistance to their blows grounding yourself in the now. Taking a hold on your personal power and strength is also a recommended path to take as these encounters can be quite strenuous, to say the least.
2. The Power of Perception
Universal Truths like ‘Life is too short’ and ‘the power of gratitude’ and how these problems are probably so insignificant to the Universe might help with these feelings of fear or toxicity when confronting them.
Now I know I write as if these people are infected like we are in the zombie apocalypse but the majority of this toxicity will probably be your own perception of them and not necessarily them.
But sometimes maybe you will come across someone who is vindictive in their ways and wants to do give themselves the upper hand without any look to the consequences to their actions.
3. Attempt Reconcile
Many people would pull the card and would say to retreat and not get involved with them as much as possible.
However I would say that you should depending on the person resolve the issue, either by just chatting to them especially if this said person is a beloved family member that you of course care for, the only way I find that you can truly resolve an issue is through no what you do necessarily but what drives the very actions we take every day.
4. Unconditional Love
Act through authentic unconditional love to the people that you care for and even to those that you hate, because what resists persists.
I would know cause I already have many regrets, and the core rooted reason was that I didn’t follow my heart. You also must be careful not to be too hasty or brutal to the other person even they seem to deserve it because you never know when the tables might turn and they might be your only call for help one day; besides people change and yes even you. Of course, there are a few exceptions but change is the law of the Universe and no matter how someone tries to stay the same you can’t run forever.
5. Develop your Spiritual Awareness
As I write this I can think of many ‘toxic relationships’ that dissolved merely just being present with myself, and even through meditation, just because my energies were on a different frequency to either those on a lower vibration or my lower frequency thoughts subsided. This is not to say that anyone is lower than anyone else but there mindset is there is the only difference. Looking at this from more of a spiritual angle rather than a rational one to me personally allows the problem to be solved easier.
But let me make this clear it does not mean lower your boundaries and let them walk over you, I am only suggesting quieting the complaining voice we all have and try to resolve this issue through compassion and kindness. Then if that doesn’t work then try distancing yourself from that person rather than argue and break the relationship tie completely because you never know when they might change and because you left you door open just a crack, you may if you please rekindle that relationship whether it be a family member, a friend or an ex-lover.
Let go of all things bad and embrace all the good things about them and appreciate that we are all different and none of us are perfect. None of us can be truly right or wrong, toxic or non-toxic, we can only try to be our best, and your best if tapped into the potential is only infinity itself.
You deserve love, compassion and a sense of belonging and you should accept nothing less. You are a hero in the making you only just have to believe and you are already halfway there!!!
Anything is possible! 🙂
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